I know a husband and father of more than four young children who works in construction and carpentry. He is an artist and a good worker. Perhaps he doesn't 'fit in' with the rough men he works with; they certainly don't listen to Gregorian chant and Greek language lessons on their mp-3 players. My friend, working full-time with a local company and on-call for when more work needs to be done, recently asked for a long deserved raise from his employer. He cited his reliable work, the months he has been in the company without a raise and the fact that he is supporting his homeschooling wife and four+ children.
The boss then stated, 'but don't you get food stamps and section 8? That should be enough." No, this family does not look for every social program that might be available to them. The father prefers to support his children himself with his hard work. In fact, they don't even avail themselves of the public school system, preferring to educate their children themselves.
Now, I would be okay if the boss had said, "There is no money in the budget for raises this quarter, but I'll keep you in mind for overtime." But no, like Walmart and other big-box businesses, the employer wants his dedicated workers to be subsidized by the state.
What is a family to do? I suppose the 'solution' is for the children to be in state daycare and public schools and both the mother and father should work full-time outside the home. The family I am writing about will not do this, so they will continue to live a simple life together. They refuse to sign their domestic church over to state control.