tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-902102460517670809.post5816924619459802573..comments2024-02-02T19:30:12.868-06:00Comments on Fear Not Little Flock: My Feather Pillowpriest's wife - S.T./ Anne Boyd http://www.blogger.com/profile/03792937108732259684noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-902102460517670809.post-31613807582184464732014-10-22T07:21:45.404-05:002014-10-22T07:21:45.404-05:00Easier said than done, I know...!
“A soul that is...Easier said than done, I know...!<br /><br />“A soul that is nurtured by hatred toward man can not be at peace with God, Who has said: If you forgive not men their sins, neither shall your Father forgive your sins (Matt. 6:15). If a man does not want to be reconciled, you must at least guard yourself from hating, praying with a pure heart for him, and speaking no evil of him.”<br /><br />+ St. Maximus the Confessor, Chapters on Love, 4.35Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08704100581391655030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-902102460517670809.post-6046049111510662562013-06-20T13:21:40.650-05:002013-06-20T13:21:40.650-05:00Karl- it is true that this experience has made me ...Karl- it is true that this experience has made me more understanding of others who have been unjustly accusedpriest's wife - S.T./ Anne Boyd https://www.blogger.com/profile/03792937108732259684noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-902102460517670809.post-7652793979580003052013-06-20T06:08:49.081-05:002013-06-20T06:08:49.081-05:00To be hurt or damaged, unjustly, gives you the opp...To be hurt or damaged, unjustly, gives you the opportunity to, sometimes, walk in another's shoes. <br /><br />There are those "out there" in positions of influence and even of power and authority, who are in denial about the horrendous harm and evil they do, each day, while claiming to represent Christ. <br /><br />Many are clergy and the like. Perhaps, this will awaken you, I hope, to the reality of people like myself, who have and continue to hold up under terrible unjustices, in my case, supported by functionaries in the Catholic Church, up to and including the Pope(s) who refuse to address out pleas.<br /><br />Your husband, being a priest, I hope, when he hears stories calling into question the actions of those he may think very highly of, rather than discounting them, carefully listens to complaints or allegations.<br /><br />I have no idea of the wrong(s) you have suffered, nor do I condone them or say they are or were justified. I am saying, however, at least in the case(s) that I am, personally familiar with, that injustice which is intentional, exists, without question, from the Pope, yes the current new Pope is corrupted in his views on social actions, at least regarding marriage and his predecessors were as well, on down and NO ONE in the Catholic Church, who is in a position to force change or blow whistles, has the integrity to help those like myself who have been asking for help, for decades. <br /><br />God ask of those he loves, what they can bear. I am a better man for the turmoils I have lived through for decades but, there is no justification for it and to say that this corrution I continue vto see in reprobate men like Pope Francis, is the work of the Holy Spirit, is outrageous and absurd. Learn from your pain. If my words upset you, reject that upset and accept thde truth I am witnessing to you. It is a gift from God.<br /><br />I am not saying that Pope Francis and the like are thoroughly evil. I am saying, in his case, he is doing serious damage to innocent spouses and their children over unjust divorces, by openly welcoming their persecutors, without, first, requiring the repentance from their unjust actions and first, requiring, restitution. That, scratches the surface. He has a world-wide stage. I understand he is learning the ropes and needs time but he is not 25 and his predecessors chose to remain corrupted throughout their entire reigns, in spite of huge evidence of their damage.<br /><br />I am sorry for your hurt and any damage to your reputation, sincerely. But know, others suffer much more and no one listens in the Catholic hierarchy. My suffering is trivial, compared to stories I have heard. Those like myself are scum to most priests and bishops, although they even lack the integrity to say such to our faces, as they fawn over openly unrepentant adulterers, in the sight of innocent, impressionable children!<br /><br />No one cares. Open your eyes, my dear, to just how dirty the linen is in the Church, which God DOES love, and so do I.<br /><br /><br />KarlAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-902102460517670809.post-22674900019431402212013-06-13T11:08:11.700-05:002013-06-13T11:08:11.700-05:00I guess reputation 'should' mean nothing b...I guess reputation 'should' mean nothing because it is so easy for an evil person or a person with an agenda to ruin someone's! But yes- Kh Jen- it is everything...I really don't know why. Why should we put more stock in what other people say about someone instead of our own experience with the same person?priest's wife - S.T./ Anne Boyd https://www.blogger.com/profile/03792937108732259684noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-902102460517670809.post-36931155619284276662013-06-13T11:05:54.543-05:002013-06-13T11:05:54.543-05:00hmm...that sounds like something MY mom would say!...hmm...that sounds like something MY mom would say! ;)priest's wife - S.T./ Anne Boyd https://www.blogger.com/profile/03792937108732259684noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-902102460517670809.post-907033612240261272013-06-13T02:12:46.208-05:002013-06-13T02:12:46.208-05:00Khouria, that's a perspective I failed to cons...Khouria, that's a perspective I failed to consider, when I responded, initially. I think of the lessons, when I took linguistics courses, in college. I think the course topic was language and culture. We discussed the levels of speech: basic, median, and elevated (in linguistics, they're basilect, mesolect, and acrolect, respectively). <br /><br />We can look at the way we present ourselves, in a similar light. I'm already thinking of arguments expressing a fear of a false front being projected by segmenting types of presentations one gives, to different audiences. <br /><br />You generally would still express your thoughts, or yourself, honestly, but they take on different forms, depending on the audience you're addressing. <br /><br />There is a danger of paralysis by analysis, which has been addressed, throughout. Fluid Motion & Designhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10963717225714324077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-902102460517670809.post-69864074466600542582013-06-12T22:21:44.949-05:002013-06-12T22:21:44.949-05:00It's hard to argue that reputation means nothi...It's hard to argue that reputation means nothing when these people are paying your husband's salary, are your only social life, and provide your housing. this is at least my point of view as a khouria.kh. jenhttp://grace-filled.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-902102460517670809.post-66434547801262599072013-06-12T17:23:51.863-05:002013-06-12T17:23:51.863-05:00Love this post. I can hear my grandma say "co...Love this post. I can hear my grandma say "consider the source". Some people are always trying to find any insignificant thing and say it was significant. You are doing a Herculean job and they have too much time on their hands.Francesnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-902102460517670809.post-63848428026292990052013-06-12T11:54:43.982-05:002013-06-12T11:54:43.982-05:00Earlybird- yes- I am open to correction (even if i...Earlybird- yes- I am open to correction (even if it stings) and I am trying to ignore the lies...it is hard when I want to talk to the people lying about me...but at this point, I am waiting to process my hurt feelings so that if I do say something, it is calm and lovingpriest's wife - S.T./ Anne Boyd https://www.blogger.com/profile/03792937108732259684noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-902102460517670809.post-28457989709579286562013-06-12T11:52:59.902-05:002013-06-12T11:52:59.902-05:00Erin- I am working on a calmer spirit! Thanks for ...Erin- I am working on a calmer spirit! Thanks for the encouragementpriest's wife - S.T./ Anne Boyd https://www.blogger.com/profile/03792937108732259684noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-902102460517670809.post-230371481879500202013-06-12T11:52:28.806-05:002013-06-12T11:52:28.806-05:00thanks for this! More thing that I have been very ...thanks for this! More thing that I have been very concerned about (perhaps overly concerned) is not being a scandal to others. I would never want someone to say- "well- being Christian is dumb and hypocritical...look at her over there, renting an R movie, saying a bad word, frowning at her kids, cutting me off in traffic, etc etc" I have enough sin on my own to deal with- when someone tells lies about me and it spreads, I become a scandal even though I didn't do anything! Now- I hope and pray that others who hear these lies will either 'blow it off' because they know I wouldn't do what was said o they will come to me DIRECTLY and ask for clarificationpriest's wife - S.T./ Anne Boyd https://www.blogger.com/profile/03792937108732259684noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-902102460517670809.post-82962429688231608152013-06-12T11:47:52.751-05:002013-06-12T11:47:52.751-05:00I'll look that book up- I like using normal pe...I'll look that book up- I like using normal people as inspiration...right now I am reading the Russian Orthodox book 'Everyday saints'- it is very, very Russian, but still inspiringpriest's wife - S.T./ Anne Boyd https://www.blogger.com/profile/03792937108732259684noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-902102460517670809.post-53970429223990763582013-06-12T11:46:29.005-05:002013-06-12T11:46:29.005-05:00thanks Louise- I'm the least anonymous 'an...thanks Louise- I'm the least anonymous 'anonymous blogger' out there!...it's a good thing that the interwebz wasn't around when we were younger...then we would have stayed up late, surfing youtube (C is obsessed with fishing videos and talking dogs)priest's wife - S.T./ Anne Boyd https://www.blogger.com/profile/03792937108732259684noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-902102460517670809.post-4142691906424802462013-06-12T09:20:44.239-05:002013-06-12T09:20:44.239-05:00I had the same thoughts as "Fluid" up ab...I had the same thoughts as "Fluid" up above. There are certain people (I am tempted to say most!) whom we should not care what they think of us. Also, compare your situation with people who have truly been accused of something completely false. Accept any correction that may be slightly true; the rest can be offered up in unity with the saints. EarlybirdAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-902102460517670809.post-73383467576916130722013-06-12T02:50:19.679-05:002013-06-12T02:50:19.679-05:00You are blessed by the Lord with such a clear mind...You are blessed by the Lord with such a clear mind and a calm spirit. I'll keep you in my prayers. Stay strong, and remember that the Lord never leaves us (His children) desolate of His help.Erin Pascalhttp://www.mycatholicblog.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-902102460517670809.post-1178231906826017952013-06-12T02:40:34.541-05:002013-06-12T02:40:34.541-05:00This is a rather deep topic. If we wanted, we coul...This is a rather deep topic. If we wanted, we could extend a discussion such as this, for a good period of time. I'm still thinking as I go; because of this, I apologize for any disjointed - real, or perceived - presentation of what I'm thinking. <br /><br />Immediately, as of this writing, I'm thinking, yes, reputation is important; and it's not, altogether. Without overly compartmentalizing it, I'd like to put reputation in various spaces. Now, if we're talking strictly interpersonal reputation, I think it'll shorten, or narrow, the scope of discussion. <br /><br />Where I work (call center), it's rather easy to put on a front, or a facade. Genuineness isn't the order of the day, for some people. Most of the time, I'm no longer too worried about what others think of me. They see me pray, during idle times. I only pray, to God, I - in the recesses of my noggin - am not doing this to raise myself. If I worry too much, I end up not being who I really am, and thus not expressing myself as honestly, as a human being (thanks Sijo Bruce Lee for that quotable quote). More later. <br /><br />I'll definitely keep you, and others who are going through similar concerns, in my prayers. I agree a genuine reputation is very important, particularly a reputation, as seen in the eyes of the Creator of all things. <br /><br /><br />Another side note: Something like this has made me keep my circle of friends rather small, and intimate. Fluid Motion & Designhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10963717225714324077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-902102460517670809.post-17906276643411085792013-06-12T02:18:32.763-05:002013-06-12T02:18:32.763-05:00This can be very hard. I've been reading the ...This can be very hard. I've been reading the book on Abbess Thaisia (http://www.amazon.com/Abbess-Thaisia-Leushino-Autobiography-Spiritual/dp/0938635425)<br />and she went through this deeply and it was very stressful for her. In time God delivered her from it completely. May God be your support!elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00962587884124992942noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-902102460517670809.post-82394102906599484142013-06-11T22:49:31.160-05:002013-06-11T22:49:31.160-05:00This is your best post yet, I think. Really thoug...This is your best post yet, I think. Really thoughtful, vulnerable, and well-written. I know this may blow your anonymous blogger cover, but I (your youngest sister) always thought of you as a fun person to shop with, my favorite babysitter who let me stay up late and watch Toonces the driving cat, a coffee buddy, and your bedroom always smelled like roses. Oh, you also should have been British. Love you!Louisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01014769202704872348noreply@blogger.com